It can feel scary to open up to someone. Asking for help is vulnerable and it takes courage. Sometimes feelings of embarrassment or shame make us feel even more scared to open up. The truth is, there are people who care and who will be happy you’ve come to them. Choosing a trusted, safe person to talk to may help ease some of that worry.

It’s also true that sometimes people’s immediate reaction isn’t what we hoped for. Often, these reactions are driven by worry and, while well intended, may not feel the most supportive. People may need some time to understand, process and come around in a way that is more supportive. If the first person you talk to isn’t able to show up in the way that you need, please don’t give up. Their reaction is likely more about them than it is about you, and you deserve support like anyone else. Keep reaching out, try someone else – there are people who want to help.

Whatever you’re going through, you don’t have to go through it alone. Asking for help can feel scary, but it’s also the first step to something new. It opens up the opportunity to feel more understood, connected, supported and cared for.